Navigating Divorce: Your Essential Guide to Self-Care

Divorce. Even the word itself can feel heavy and charged with a complex mix of emotions—grief, anger, fear, and perhaps, a curiosity and enthusiasm for what lies on the other side. It’s a profound shift, redefining not just your relationship status but often your daily life, your identity, and your future. During such a sizable transition, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed, to put everyone and everything else first, and to let your own well-being fall to the wayside.

But here’s the truth: self-care during divorce isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. It’s the courageous, almost rebellious, act of choosing yourself when everything feels like it’s falling apart. It’s this sort of foundational work that allows you to move through this period with resilience, integrity, and a clear vision for an empowered life waiting on the other side. As Wilson Kester’s wellness ambassador, and someone who has experienced divorce firsthand, I understand how prioritizing your well-being—physically, emotionally, and mentally—can transform this challenging chapter into a profound journey of self-discovery.

Let’s explore some essential self-care reminders to help you build your toolbox of support as you navigate this new chapter.

1. Back to Basics: Sleep, Nourishment, Movement

• Sleep: When life feels chaotic, our basic needs are often the first to go. Yet your body has the capability of being your most loyal companion; it needs your care now more than ever. Prioritize consistent, restorative sleep—even if it means setting strict bedtimes or using over-the-counter sleep aids or melatonin for the tough nights when falling asleep feels impossible. 
• Nutrition: Fuel your body with nourishing foods that truly support you, rather than relying on quick fixes or emotional eating. Picking up pre-made, pre-cut fruits, veggies, meats, cheeses, and soups, or even ready-to-go items like rotisserie chickens can help you re-fuel when you don’t have extra brain space to prep.
• Movement: It really is medicine. Moving your body creates a powerful release for stress, anxiety, and pent-up emotions. Whether it’s a gentle walk, a vigorous hike, or a grounding yoga practice, move your body in a way that feels good and helps you process, not just push through.

2. Give Yourself Permission to Feel (and Process!)

Divorce can bring a tidal wave of emotions—sadness, anger, confusion, relief, guilt. It’s tempting to try and push them down, to “be strong” or “move on” quickly. But true strength lies in allowing yourself to feel without judgment. Suppressing emotions only prolongs the healing process.

Carve out dedicated time to acknowledge what’s swirling inside you. This might look like:

• Journaling: Pouring your thoughts onto paper can be incredibly cathartic.
• Talking it out: Lean on a trusted friend, family member, or a therapist who can hold space for your emotions without trying to fix them.
• Mindful Moments: Simply sitting with a difficult emotion for a few minutes and acknowledging its presence without getting swept away can help you process and release (versus store) the emotional weight.

3. Curate Your Support System

You do not have to navigate this transition alone. This is the time to lean on your true allies and create a personal board of directors who can show up for you.

• Lean In: Identify the people in your life who truly uplift you, listen without judgment, and make you feel seen and loved. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for specific help— whether it’s a coffee chat, a meal, or simply a listening ear.
• Set Boundaries: Just as important as leaning in is knowing when to pull back from relationships that drain you, add to the drama, or offer unhelpful advice. It’s okay to say no, to limit contact, or to step away from conversations that don’t serve your healing.
• Professional Help: Consider working with a therapist, coach, or divorce support group. These professionals offer objective guidance, coping strategies, and a safe space to process complex emotions. There is immense strength in seeking support.

Your Path to Empowerment

Navigating divorce is undeniably tough, but it’s also a powerful opportunity for profound personal growth and rediscovery. By prioritizing these self-care reminders, you’re not just surviving; you’re actively building the foundation for a stronger, more resilient, and truly empowered you. Remember, you deserve kindness, support, and the space to heal and flourish.

Ready to explore a deeper sense of well-being during your transition?

We’re here to support you. Let’s connect and craft a personalized wellness plan that helps you thrive through this chapter and beyond.

Jenna Morris
Be Well with Jenna
The Well Refined Podcast
312.282.6706
jenna@bewellwithjenna.com